Men. And Women. And Restrooms.
IMPORTANT NOTES:
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First, I’ve said before in this forum
that I try to stay out of political arguments, and that’s still true. Sometimes,
though, I feel compelled to weigh in on an issue, and this is one of those
times. I see this topic as not mainly political, however, but societal.
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Second, parental discretion is advised.
The comments below are intended for an adult audience.
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Third, I would love to hear thoughtful
responses on this posting. Do you agree? Do you disagree? Am I oversimplifying?
Am I missing something? I’m very interested in respectful responses that allow
us to continue this discussion in a mature way.
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Fourth, this is not a debate regarding the
morality of “gender-affirming” (i.e., transitional, cross-dressing) actions and
procedures. Such conversations are certainly worth having, but not here.
Men. And
Women. And Restrooms.
South
Carolina Representative Nancy Mace has introduced to the US House a bill designed “to
prohibit individuals from accessing or using single-sex facilities on Federal
property other than those corresponding to their biological sex, and for other
purposes.” (I have no idea what “and for other purposes” means.) She says she
has done so to “safeguard the privacy and safety of women and girls.” Everyone knows,
though, that the bill has been introduced specifically to target Representative-Elect
Sarah McBride, who is to be Congress’s first openly trans member.
So do you
agree with Rep. Mace or not? Should we “[prohibit] individuals
from accessing or using single-sex facilities … other than those corresponding
to their biological sex”? It’s easy to come to a snap decision based on the bald
facts above and on your political and religious stances—as well as the emotions
that grow out of those stances. But I’ve been trying to see beyond the smoke
generated by hyped-up knee-jerk reactions on both sides of this issue. Often in
such potentially explosive conversations, grandstanding politicians are
interested in stirring up emotional smoke rather than stoking the fire of
reason. And they keep the smoke roiling until someone can declare himself the
winner, whether or not anything of value has been achieved.
Let’s work
through this controversy together, keeping emotion, as much as we can, out of
the discussion. And let’s land wherever reason leads us.*
Two
Sides
On one
side of the issue, we have those who say we must implement such a law to “safeguard
the privacy and safety of women and girls”—i.e., we must keep men out of
women’s restrooms.
Protecting
the privacy and safety of girls and women is certainly an admiral goal
regardless of your political leanings. I am 100% behind it, being old-fashioned
enough to believe that defending women is every man’s duty. Who could oppose that?
Well, on
the other side, we have at least one Representative insisting that people who
propose such legislation just “want to be able to inspect [people’s] genitals”
before they can use a public restroom.
Wow, look
at all that billowing emotional smoke! The very idea that anyone wants to
implement a required “genital check” before allowing people to use a public
restroom is ludicrous, unfeasible, and illegal. (By the way, a simple blood
test—not “inspecting genitals”—is a straightforward way to determine one’s
biological sex. You either got a Y chromosome or you don’t! But now I’m straying
from the point….)
Let’s fan
away the smoke of hyperbole and look at the intent of such a statement. At its
root, the real question is, How could such a law be enforced?
Emotions
on the other side of the issue may respond, “Well, if we don’t have legislation
banning biological men from women’s restrooms (and vice versa), lots of depraved
men will dress as women just to enter women’s restrooms and assault them!”
Wait.
Wait.
Generally
speaking, the lack of such laws is the status quo. (Alabama, Arkansas,
Florida, Idaho, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, North Dakota, Oklahoma, Tennessee, and Utah
are the only states as of this writing that have laws regulating bathroom
access.) Depraved men can dress as women just to enter women’s restrooms for perverse
purposes now. No doubt, some do. But as far as I’m aware, it’s not a
widespread problem. If any man assaults a woman anywhere—in a restroom, car,
home, bar, anywhere—laws exist to punish him for his execrable act.
Six
Scenarios
Have I
ever shared a men’s restroom with a transgender man? Well, how in the world
would I know that?
Has my
wife ever shared a women’s restroom with a transgender woman? Again, how could
she possibly know that?
Rather
than thinking in generalities, let’s look at several different potentially real situations.
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Scenario
4: A woman enters
a women’s restroom. One of the stall doors opens and a man (dressed as a man or
dressed as a woman) assaults her. In the best outcome of such a dreadful
scenario, the victim calls the police and the man is arrested, just as any such
perpetrator would be, regardless of the location. Would a law saying he couldn’t
be in a women’s restroom have kept him from hiding there? It’s unlikely, since
laws against assault didn’t keep him from assaulting her.
· Scenario 5: To comply with a policy, act, or law requiring people to use the restroom that matches their chromosomes, a physical man who is dressed like a woman and, were you to meet the person on the street, looks like a woman, proceeds into the men’s room and uses the facilities. How comfortable are the other men in the restroom with this situation (“Hey Tom, did you see that woman just walk in here? What’s the deal?!”)?
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Scenario
6: To comply with
a policy, act, or law requiring people to use the restroom that matches their
chromosomes, a physical woman who is dressed like a man and looks like a man sails
into the women’s restroom and uses the facilities. How comfortable are the
other women with this situation? How are they to know whether this is a trans
woman or a cis man intentionally invading women’s space for some sort of sexual
gratification? Haven’t we now made it easier for such a man to do so?
How has this requirement fixed the perceived problem? (“Linda, a guy just
walked through here and went into that stall! Let’s get out of here—I don’t
feel safe!”)
Whether
another person is trans or not is something we cannot invariably determine just
by seeing him or her. For example, I was donating plasma yesterday, and a young
man came in and also began donating. My first impression, when he walked past,
was to wonder whether he was trans. He dressed like a man and had a man’s
voice—but he was small of stature, and his facial features seemed rather
feminine to me. Was he trans? Answer: I have no idea, and it’s none of my
business.
So.
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If
we want people who look like men using women’s restrooms and people who look
like women using men’s restrooms, we should (somehow) “prohibit individuals
from accessing or using single-sex facilities … other than those corresponding
to their biological sex.”
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If
we do not want people who look like men using women’s restrooms nor people who
look like women using men’s restrooms, we should be satisfied with the status
quo.
I choose the
status quo.
* In my opinion, each school or business is going to
have to work out its own solution on this matter based on its own
circumstances. Such entities will have to decide what to do, for example, when
a student or employee begins to transition and wants to “switch restrooms.” I
offer no solution in such situations. This essay concerns American society as a
whole.
Copyright 2024, Steven Nyle Skaggs
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